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Should I Live On My Own?

So I live with 12 people. That may sound scary to you but actually it’s not that bad. I live in a converted warehouse so it’s a huge space, everyone has their own private bedrooms and people are on such different schedules, in and out all the time that it rarely ever feels like there’s 12 people in at once. There’s a healthy balance between having friends around to chat with, eat with, watch TV and films with and just hiding in your bedroom for a bit of privacy.

Recently I have been getting itchy feet. I have been living her for a year and 4 months now and that’s the longest amount of time I’ve lived anywhere other than my parents’ house. At university I moved every year and I think my brain got a bit stuck in ‘oh it’s been a year now – where next?’ and I can’t quite shake that feeling. Also, in complete contrast to my current living situation I have been flirting with the idea of living on my own. Shake things up a bit, embrace some change, be a real adult. I have lived with other people my whole life: my family, university housemates and now London housemates. I have yet to do the ‘living with a boyfriend’ thing though and to be honest not really ready for that in the slightest (need a boyfriend first).

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I have found myself looking at 1 bedroom flats in London online and then changing the viewing order from “highest price to lowest” and drooling over these beautiful but horrifically expensive flats. Would not recommend – it will make you sad and frustrated that you’re not a millionaire. So I thought I would put together a pros and cons list of living on my own because that’s how all major decisions are made. Here we go:

Pros

  1. My own space!Β There are a lot of things that come under this pro – I can put my own furniture, decorations, books everywhere and not just in my bedroom. I will feel as though the kitchen isΒ mine and actually cook more.
  2. I could walk around naked.
  3. I could sing and dance around to cheesy pop music as loudly as I like.
  4. I could have people over and host dinner parties.
  5. I won’t feel guilty when I come home and go straight to my room instead of socialising.

Cons

  1. I’ll get lonely. I’m an extrovert and even though I love spending time on my own, I like it because I know that there’s someone on the other side of the wall who I could talk to if I wanted. When you live on your own, you’re just alone and there’s not even the option to talk to someone else.
  2. ONE BEDROOM FLATS IN LONDON ARE SO EXPENSIVE. Normal people can really only afford it if they’re moving in with a partner so they split the rent.
  3. No-one will know if I go missing or die.
  4. Bringing back guys who I don’t know very well would make me feel nervous.
  5. I’m freelance and work from home a lot so there could be a fair number of days where I don’t see or speak to another humanΒ at all.

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I think I’ve very much romanticised the idea of living alone in my head and the reality is that with my personality, my freelance life, my budget and my single status I can’t do it. Maybe in the next year I’ll downsize to live with 2 or 3 other people but for now the warehouse is my home and I have a family of 12.

Do you live on your own or with a bunch of people? Do you reckon you would thrive in your own apartment? Let me know in the comments!

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  1. Every time I read an article or a blog post about living in London, my dream of living there shutters a little haha. Why is rent so expeeeensiiiive?!
    I still live with my parents although I’m at my second year of Uni (in Italy we don’t have campuses and since I live in Rome I didn’t have to move to another city) but I’m starting to feel like I need my own space just to feel more like “a real adult”! But yeah, since I know myself, I’m sure I wouldn’t get anything done and I would, as you say, get lonely. BUT IT’S JUST SO EXCITING ISN’T IT?!
    So yeah, what I got out of this blog post is that I need to be ready to live with an entire football team when I’ll move to London ?

  2. I’m in my final year of uni, but me and my boyfriend live together just us two in a two bed flat. I hated living in a big house in my second year, even though I loved the people I was living with. Other people’s mess and noise just wind me up, and there’s a really tricky dynamic when living with friends I think. I’m not sure I could live on my own, but I love living with just my boyfriend because there’s always someone around to chat to or vent to, but equally we’re very good at just getting on with our own thing and existing separately in the same space πŸ™‚

  3. I currently live with just 2 other people and it is barely manageable to me. So the thought of having 12 roommates sounds like a nightmare. Although, I’m also an introvert and my roommates are particularly inconsiderate and difficult to live with, so my needs are very different to yours.

    I’m close to getting a place on my own again for the first time in years, and I’m actually trying very hard to find an apartment complex with mostly elderly residents, but of course which isn’t an elderly facility, as being 29 obviously I wouldn’t fit that criteria. But I feel it would be very advantageous. It would mean no children running about, neighbors who are likely very quiet, and I also think it will make me feel quite youthful.

  4. I currently live with 3 other people in a small house in North London and as two don’t speak English and one is hardly there, it does quite feel like I live on my own. I lived with my best from until she returned home to Denmark three months ago. I was really looking forward to a bit of “freedom” and it was fine for the first couple of weeks but… in the long run, as I am a bit of an introvert, it does get very lonely.

    Considering your job, I would really say that living on your own would be a bit of a struggle for you. I worked from home during the first week this year and literally did not leave the house except to go and get groceries every ther day. It’s not worth it.

    If you’re looking for a bit more space, I’d say maybe move somewhere smaller with just a couple of friends or at least people you get along with – that way you both have your own time and space but also friends when you need it.

    Due to feeling a bit lonely and unhappy in my current situation, I’m moving to a larger household in the beginning of next month. Mad excited to live with 8 other people.

  5. I currently live with 3 other people in a small house in North London and as two don’t speak English and one is hardly there, it does quite feel like I live on my own. I lived with my best from until she returned home to Denmark three months ago. I was really looking forward to a bit of “freedom” and it was fine for the first couple of weeks but… in the long run, as I am a bit of an introvert, it does get very lonely.

    Considering your job, I would really say that living on your own would be a bit of a struggle for you. I worked from home during the first week this year and literally did not leave the house except to go and get groceries every ther day. It’s not worth it.

    If you’re looking for a bit more space, I’d say maybe move somewhere smaller with just a couple of friends or at least people you get along with – that way you both have your own time and space but also friends when you need it.

    Due to feeling a bit lonely and unhappy in my current situation, I’m moving to a larger household in the beginning of next month. Mad excited to live with 8 other people.

    1. Hi, this is a dumb question but as a 17 year old who is considering going to London even though i don’t know anyone there, how do you go about sharing a house with people? Like do you know them all beforehand or meet at uni or what?

      Hope you don’t mind me asking πŸ™‚

  6. I’m in my first year of uni currently, living in halls with 5 other people. Sometimes it feels like the worst idea, being able to hear them at 2am, spending so much time with them that they literally drive me insane, but at the same time I couldn’t imagine being on my own. I’ve got a constant support network, people I can talk to, do my shopping with, cook with and eat with. The idea of living alone crosses my mind a lot, to the extent where living alone next year was a serious consideration, however, despite needing my own space sometimes I think I genuinely need to be surrounded by people!

  7. I’ve spent the past few months considering basically the same thing and came to the conclusion that apart from the cost, the pros outweighed the cons (assuming I have a “normal” job where I go out and see people most days). But in London it’s nearly twice as much price to go from a 2 bed to a 1 bed and I just can’t afford it first year out of university.

    I think if you were to do it you’d need to make an effort to actually go out most days and make sure to see people quite often. I am lucky in that my flatmate spends a lot of time at her boyfriends so I basically get a 1 bed place for half the price most of the time and have been able to try it out; if there is anyway you could try it for a little bit to see how you cope that might be a good idea.

  8. I’m an extrovert and I have to say all living situations are going to have their pros and cons. At home, it’s only me and my mum and due to our work/school schedules I can end up on my own for a couple of days. I don’t mind it, especially now since I’ve got used to having space from living away from home at uni. Whilst at uni, I stayed mainly in student accommodation, in a flat ranging from 5-8 people. It was definitely easier to make friends there than when I went to private housing. I got the chance to live on my own on my semester abroad in Germany. The student accommodation was really different to the UK, you were essentially given a small apartment to yourself but it was part of large complex so seeing someone would be as easy as knocking next door. I liked it the best because I had all that space to myself without the anyone else’s mess to deal with but when I wanted people round it was easy. I think a good balance in your situation would be sharing but with a lot less people, it’s probably the best compromise since rent is ridiculously high in London. πŸ™‚

  9. Hi there,
    sooo. I can understand where you are coming from.
    I am a student living in Jena – Germany (beautiful small but modern city, you should visit it, lots of culture and fun stuff).
    I have been at that point last year to choose between living in a 1 – 1 /2 room flat and in a shared flat with other people.

    That big contra-argument, Expensive, very expansive. If you want something proper where you can cook and live too, you have to spent at least 400€ upwards. Not possible for a student.

    I seriously considered it, maybe even taking up a large loan to make that possible.
    Why? Pro arguments:
    I am genderqueer and do enjoy to express my queerness at home *I am still a little bit self-concious to do it elsewhere). So I do enjoy to have my home as a safe-space.
    Another thing: housework. Being independent there is great, you can do it on your own time with your own standards without anyone chipping in and make your life difficult.
    You can invite who you want without upsetting your flatmates.

    Basically everything you said.

    So there are a few good reasons to get your own place.

    Let me try to ease some of your cons.
    1. Well. I would consider myself to be an extrovert, too. Still, I would love a flat for my own. I can be an extrovert with my friends at any given time. Being an extrovert would not stop me.

    3. Someone would notice, at least the people you meet on regular basis will notice.

    5. Aside from being a student I also am a freelance worker. And if I would work at home, I would not see my flatmates very often either. So I create mandatory social stuff for myself to counteract that. Regular gatherings in a pub, weekly theatre rehearsals and social campaign work keep me in touch with the world. It solely depends how you schedule your freelance work.

    Currently I am living together with two nice women who accept me for what I am. If there are problems, we talk about it. Living with them is not very problematic and the price doesn’t kill me.

    In the end it is important to decide what you want for yourself and what you want to sacrifice for it.

    For myself, the next living arrangement is clear, either I live alone in a proper 1 to 1 1/2 room flat or I move together with a bunch of really good friends with whom I can be free.

    I hope I helped a little.

    Keep on your awesome stuff!!

  10. I’m an introvert so love my own company but I feel like living alone would scare me unless I have a massive dog! Living in London I feel like I’ll probably live with my mum for a long time to come because of the money issue

  11. I’m so ready to live on my own. Not financially maybe, but in every other aspect. I dream of my own space, that I can decorate exactly as I’d like, and not, as you said, hide all of “my” stuff in my bedroom. Also the thought of being alone thrills me, because then I can decide when I want to be around people. Also, all the pros previously mentioned.

  12. I lived alone for four years while doing my undergrad. Right now I live with four other people. I have to say, that I enjoy living with them, more than living alone. The whole alone thing is something that a lot of people underestimate. I have done that too. Being alone in your flat or being alone in your room are two completely different concepts.
    Being alone in your room, means you can step outside and see someone, have a short chat and grab a cup of tea.
    Being alone in your flat, you always have to make plans with your friends to see them, and we all know they are not technically waiting the whole day for your call, they have their own lives.
    It sounds fantastic at first, but the loneliness can be massive!

  13. I live alone and have been living in my little flat for 1 year. It was a challenge but it’s better that I took this decision. When I went abroad I hd 2 room mates for a while, and at home I lived with my family. Living alone has it’s pros, but tbh I wish I was living in a flat with a friend, I wouldn’t feel alone when I come back home from work, and if I am sick a friend’s presence would make me feel better. Plus the rent is cheaper when you share.

  14. Mate! I’ve literally today just moved out of my one bed flat into a house share! I really wouldn’t recommend it, I’m an introvert who enjoys time alone but it was very hard and lonely. I work in retail so I always see people there but on my days off I would often not see anyone, this gets boring quickly!
    I’m happy to say I now have two lovely housemates who I have known for years and two kitten housemates- I’m a very happy man πŸ™‚

    As for the price it’s very expensive! Even though the rent was reasonable I must say that the bills and council tax was a huge burden on my bank account.

    As you seem to be a very social person I’d have to say I would not recommend it to you! Particularly not at London prices πŸ˜›

  15. I live with my parents but love the idea of going back to my uni days and living with a group of young people again!
    I definitely couldn’t live on my own, I do really enjoy my own company so relish when I get the house to myself but after a few days I do miss someone to talk to and not sure I could do it long term….. maybe I could…..
    Good luck with the move as and when it occurs!

  16. I feel your feels, Hannah. I’ve never been in your specific situation, but I’d always dreamed of living alone. I’m someone who likes to be clean and organized, and having to deal with other peoples’ messes makes me kind of a grump. But then suddenly I skipped that entire situation of getting to live alone and build my own space to living with my boyfriend. I sometimes feel like I’m cheating because we get to share rent and I’ve never had to forge out and “make it” on my own, but I also realize that living alone may have actually made my living with someone else harder! Once I’d had a chance to make my own space and keep it how I liked, I think learning to make compromises and live with someone else would’ve been a lot harder.

    So I think your pros/cons list is great and honest. I also like that you realize you’ve romanticized the idea of living alone. The practical side of me looks at your situation (esp the fact that you’re an extrovert and often work from home), and I think living alone might be a set back for you. Embrace your situation. Look at all the benefits. Check back in with yourself in a year or two and re-evaluate. It’s never too late to change things up!

  17. Dear Hanna:
    As a US senior citizen and having a great deal of worldly experience I must say your mature approach is very refreshing. You make great points both for and against living on your own. Today’s big city societies are not what they were just 20 years ago, and there are so many more problems and chance for dangerous situations for a young woman living alone.

    I am impressed that you know your limits and strengths, that’s very important when making a decision such as this. My wife of 40 years and I had to deal with such matters when our daughter (our only child) moved to New York City from Los Angeles to seek her life long career in Opera and we lived through many trying times. But because of the high cost of real estate in New York City she could never afford to live on her own and always had room mates to share the expenses. (She is married now and still living in New York City where she sings and teaches voice) but my wife and I don’t worry as much as we did she was there all by herself.

    So your idea to continue to live in the group home is a good one with the idea of down sizing to a smaller group later. Hopefully you will find romance with a man (or woman, whatever rocks your world) and you can continue to mature and grow the need for your own space. That is only a natural progression and one you will want to have and enjoy.

    For now you are young and beautiful, with plenty of time to feel your way into the adult world of home/flat ownership.

    Love reading all your topics and seeing your videos too.

  18. Getting to dance as loudly as you want to pop music when you live with people is really fun and enticing because of the novelty of being alone in the apartment sometimes. It’s like, wow! No one’s here for once! I can do whatever I want! In my experience, once you live alone after a while you kind of have to sing really loudly to pop music to fill the space up with sound… The novelty wears off a bit.

  19. I first lived on my own aged 21, when I moved a long way for a job and the firm found me a flat to rent. It took a bit of getting used to, and the response I used to get was often as if I had divorced or been bereaved. Nowadays with the cost of housing, it’s more one of envy that I can afford to.

    The advantages that I found fairly quickly aside from those you mention are the bathroom always being free, no listening or watching tv you don’t want to watch (same applied to music), and if you are late home, no-one need be worried. The disadvantage was if something bad happened you had too much time to mull it over (and I don’t mean Manchester City losing, which was more commonplace then!), and it felt miserable on cold winter evenings (now I live in a warmer place).

    Some of the things I found probably won’t apply for you, as you won’t be moving as far as I did, and as I am a man, there are some issues I don’t have to consider.

    Good luck whatever you decide to do.

  20. I lived with 12 people in my first year at uni and, despite loving it for many reasons (making friends, always having people around, the parties), I began to hate it towards the end of the year. For the rest of my time at uni I’ve lived in just a 5 person flat, all girls, and although there can be some bitchiness, it’s been great.
    I’ve also toyed with the idea of living alone though. I’m someone who very much enjoys their own space and I can be very particular about the way cleaning and organising are done. I know that can make me quite difficult to live with so living alone seems like a great option for me. (Although rent is way less where I live than it is in London) I also really enjoy my own company but have the same worry as you that I would get lonely and spend days when the only person I talked to was the guy behind the till in the corner shop.

  21. I’m 20 and I still live at home with my mum in a rural area and I’m getting really frustrated with not having anywhere to go. I’ve had some problems with mental health which make a lot of things difficult and I’m also struggling to find work. I’m dying to move out and live somewhere else but I don’t think I could cope on my own and I would be too scared to live with people I don’t know. My brother has said that if I’m still struggling when his rent contract in Leicester runs out and his housemate moves out then I might be able to go and live with him and I actually almost cried when he suggested that. I’d love to be able to live alone in a big city and have an adventure but realistically I don’t think I’m capable of that kind of independence just yet.

  22. I lived in a similar group of disparate people from 19 – 25 and loved every minute of it. Of course (being old), I have now been through all of the other options but I still look back at that time as the best of all and would love to recreate it in retirement but others of my age are less enthusiastic. It depends who you are of course and if you have itchy feet I guess you’ll just have to move on but you can’t keep moving every year, you’ll have to settle for a bit longer at a time. Personally I’d love to buy a big old house somewhere with a whole bunch of people where everyone could employ their talents in various ways, still an old hippy I guess.

  23. I’m in my final year at uni and have lived on my own for the past 2.5 years. And at the beginning I loved it because you can be super independant and only deal with your own housework and mess. But on the other hand it can get really lonely at times. After graduating I’m planning on moving to a different city and living with a few (up to 3) other people in a flat.
    I think there is a difference between beeing able to just go out of your room if you want to talk to someone or leaving the house to have some human interaction. So yeah that’s my story.
    I hope you find a good solution for the situation you’re in.
    Greetings from Germany πŸ™‚

  24. Hi Hannah,
    I’m 21 and I’ve lived on my own for more than two years now. It’s not really a lifystyle I recommend for people; I’m very introverted and I still find it tough. I can go 24 hours without saying a word out loud. Having nothing to come home to can be a depressing thought. I ended up impulsively getting a cat to combat the loneliness. You think you’ll cook more, but cooking for one can be tricky, and very wasteful. You feel a big silly going to effort when you’re the only one that it is for. Maybe that’s just me. I think it’s good to live with at least one other person so that you feel accountable; you’ll be tidier and healthier. I went through a stage when I would drink on my own most nights of the week, it’s scarily easy to slip into.
    Living alone was definitely a novelty for about six months or so, so maybe it wouldn’t be too bad for a short term thing to test the waters, but definitely not a long-term living situation I’d recommend for most people.
    Hope this is in any way helpful.
    Cheers,
    Jackie.

  25. Well I live at the moment on a naval base doing an apprentice for network rail and I have to share a room with 6 blokes from all over the country which I didn’t meet. Until I turned up. In total there are 200 apprentices and we all live in total in 2 buildings. Being 17 it is quite new to me as I never spent so much time away from my family before and have to look after my self and work. What I have found is being down here is how very different people from. Different up bringings different stages of life (as there are people, between the ages of 17 to 40!) how you can all live together fairly well, which is different I thought it was going to be. I was expecting a lot clashes in personalities which hardly happens. There are clashes and disagreement for example, we have a near navy standard room check every 2 weeks and we lose money if we fail so tension are pretty high to keep get it clean after a long day at work. So when there’s a roommate that tidied all of his stuff or hasn’t hoovered well enough everyone gets annoyed and worried. But most time we tend to get on. It is fun though personally as apart from curfew that are set it is up to you to decide your evenings to what to get up to unlike me personally where I have had a lot of control with a lot of stuff with my parents in the past so getting that freedom to turn round and decide something like i am going to have dominos every night of week and not explaining to do really to anyone. Any way going to stop typing now so yeah, there’s a brief insight into my life as apprentice hope if was informing and stuff slightly and readable.

  26. Personally, I wouldn’t. I lived on my own at Uni, and although I was only a 20 minute walk from campus it was one of the most isolating ways of living that I’ve experienced. Unless you’re absolutely filthy rich you won’t be able to afford a decent place, and even if you are you’ll be paying way over the odds. Much better perhaps to get a smaller place with people you feel close to – 12 together sounds a bit hectic. I think the best places I’ve been in were where there were 3 or 4 of us at any one time, and we respected each others’ space. Bedrooms were invite only, so to speak, and common areas were kept nice.

  27. I’ve been living on my own for the past two years and I love it. I live in a city too, so rent is definitely expensive but it’s worth it in my opinion, I love being on my own and feeling free to just roam around my own space whenever I please. I do have a full time job at a studio though, so I get to see people daily. If I was a freelance artist I’m sure I’d go a little stir-crazy, because I know I’d definitely go days without socializing.

  28. I have lived outside my parents’ place for almost 5.5 years, and for most of that time I have lived completely on my own and in the other end of the country. That was fine in the beginning, but then I had a couple of break-ins in my apartment and even though I am a huge introvert alone time started to feel really scary for me due to anxiety.

    So when I moved back to the end of the country I had grown up in to study at university, I moved in with one of my friends with benefits. Some people told us it was dangerous to do that because “oh when you have had sex and then start to live together one of you might start to get feelings for the other and then jealousy will start happening and then the friendship is ruined forever”. I understand their concerns, but he is aromantic and I am polyamorous, so neither of us want a monogamous relationship, and it has now been five months without that happening so I’d say we are fine. We have become closer friends, because we talk a lot about our mental issues with each other, give each other support and if the other one needs cuddles we are totally down, because we are both very physical people and some times you just need the intimacy. But I also do that with other friends, I am very physical with friends – if I have their consent – so he is not a special case in that sense.

    It’s funny how you mention the “walking around naked” thing, because I am the exact same way, I hate wearing clothes when I am at home, so it’s a definite pro to live with someone who has already seen me naked several times before πŸ˜›

  29. I think you’ve probably reached the right conclusion. London’s insane prices mean you would have to go from a fair amount of (shared) space to a tiny cupboard, which would probably be painful. Doesn’t mean that you can’t realise your dream in a few years though! A few tips about living alone (I walk the fine line between introvert and extrovert, so I need a bit of both): if you’re freelance, consider finding a nice (and hopefully quiet) coffee shop so occasionally you can be around people while working. And make sure you have a solid network of friends (which doesn’t seem to be a problem for you!) and that you invite them around regularly to avoid feeling lonely.
    Being able to decorate and personalise your place *is* absolutely amazing. So is having your own kitchen. Cooking for one can be a bit depressing though, but that’s what dinner parties are for!

  30. I have this exact same thought process every damn month. I own a flat back home and moving to London was the first time I ever had to live with people who aren’t my family so it took a bit of time to adjust. Luckily it’s just me and my flatmate but I still crave my own space! Don’t think I could cope with 12 other people personally x

  31. I think you’ve made the right choice for now. Living alone can be wonderful. I owned my own house for a time, and I LOVED every minute of it! I miss my house. That said, any time you live alone, it has its own stresses.

    It’s much easier to form bad habits when living alone that conflict with being a social person. The naked bit is nice, but one can easily end up going all day without getting properly dressed, which leads to feelings of depression and social avoidance. Living alone does make you feel like a “real adult” in both positive and negative ways. You make all the decisions, but you’re also responsible for everything when you live alone… all the bills, all the repairs, all the grocery shopping. You can’t ask a roommate to take care of this or that while you’re out of town for a few days. It’s remarkable what a positive difference it can make to have another person around for all sorts of reasons.

    Still, I can’t wait to live on my own again! I’m hoping to do so in a few months, in fact. With the pros and cons you listed in your life, I think you made a wise decision for you. I am curious about your wanderlust though. Are you embracing change for the fun of it, or it’s just become a bad habit (and moving every year is a bad habit from an economic perspective), or are you running from something (like you’re afraid your life will be boring if you’re not constantly moving)? Staying put and forming some roots in a community is a wonderful thing when you get older, but for now it’s great that you’re exploring the world and figuring out what you like and where you want to be … if that’s the reason you’re moving so much. I’d recommend you move for good reason, and not just out of habit. My two cents. : )

  32. Hi ! I unfortunately still live with my mom. I’m from Paris so it’s very expensive as well. If I had to move out, I think i’ll probably live on my own or with only one or two roommates ! πŸ™‚

  33. This year I moved to another city to go to uni and it’s my first time not living with my parents. I’m currently living with two flat mates and I really like it. My father wanted me to rent a flat just for me at first, but I knew I would feel lonely and even though I like to have my own space and being on my own, I knew (and know) that I’m not the kind of person who can handle all the living by their own thing. It would make me feel too unhappy to come home and not find anyone there, specially when I’m feeling down or feeling lonely. Anyway, that’s just how I know I would feel.

    When it comes to your situation, and considering everything you have written in the post above, I think that you should do what your hearts tells you to. If you’ve been looking for flats, maybe it is because you wanna try it out. I think that as long as you keep in contact with people and hang out with them it is okay to live on your own. The worst thing that can happen is that you may not like it. In that case, you could just move in with some flat mates again!

  34. I’ve had to live alone for a short period of time during university, and I think the biggest “con” that would go on my list is that when you live alone, there’s nobody around to encourage you to DO things. There’s nobody there to tell you to cook, there’s nobody there to give you a reality-check when you flat gets too messy, and, worst of all, when you live alone you have to deal with neighbors /ALONE/. If you’re unlucky with who you live next to it’s really difficult to get across the point that they’re being too loud, or too messy, or too *whatever*. You’re sort of stuck with what you get, and you either learn to deal with it or you end up being forced to move into a new place.

  35. Personally I never managed to live completely alone, though I still hope it will happen. It’s just so ridiculously espensive and I’m broke and terrible at keeping a job. I’m an introvert though and it’s hard for me to feel at easy at shared space. For example, if I have my own room, but share kitchen and bathroom, I will never feel completely at ease there. It’s always someone else’s ground and I can’t even reclaim it as an evenly shared ground. It’s ridiculous. But yes, living on my own is expensive and stressful. Still, since I’ve been forced to move back to my parents’ house I dream of nothing else. :/

  36. Yeah I don’t think you’d do well living by yourself. As an INFP I have a need to live alone at some point in my life – I’m 24 and still currently living at home but know I am moving out this year. Hopefully I can find a nice one bedroom place I can have all to myself for a year or two. πŸ™‚

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