I hear these words a lot, coming from my friends and coming out of my own mouth. I’m not sure if this is a 20-something thing, a London thing, or a YouTube thing but everyone is so busy!
Here is a typical conversation between any two friends/acquaintances:
Oh hey! Not seen you in ages, what have you been up to?
Oh my god, I’ve been so busy! Just doing lots of stuff, so busy, you know?
Yeah, same. So much going on. It’s crazy! Well I’ve got to be somewhere for this thing but it was good to run into you!
Me too, I’m on my way to a meeting. Great to see you!
The amount of conversations I have like this pains my heart. I hate myself for sounding so self-important and vague but I always justify it by telling myself
- I can’t be bothered going into detail about all the things that have been keeping me busy
- This person probably doesn’t care to hear it they’re just being polite asking
- I genuinely can’t even remember what I was doing yesterday
But sometimes I think I lie. If someone tells me they’ve been super busy and I’ve just had a bit of a quiet week (because when you’re freelance the work comes in waves) then I feel bad about not being busy and will pretend like I have so I can impress this person that I probably don’t care about impressing. I wish I could just say, “it’s been a quiet week, I’ve just hung out at home in my pyjamas watching shows on Netflix and YouTube videos”. And I’m pretty sure I’m not the only person who lies about being busy. And I also think it depends on who you’re talking to.
Being a “busy” person and dating is an interesting world to navigate. I used to tell myself that I was “too busy to date” but then I realised I just wasn’t meeting anyone I felt really excited about and I wasn’t prepared to compromise my busy lifestyle to make time for them. I genuinely would use “I’m too busy to see you” when ending things with some people. Dating just wasn’t a priority for me because none of these guys were a priority to me (sorry if we dated in the last year and you’re reading this but you get it). But I reckon that if I met someone who I was really into that I wouldn’t even have to think about making time for them, it would just happen naturally because I would want to see them rather than feeling like you have to squeeze them into your already existing schedule. But I will say that I really love my life so this person would have to be absolutely incredible for me to even consider changing around my priorities. Shush, I’m 24 I’m allowed to be demanding like this. I’ve got time!
I’ve also noticed that I’ve become more introverted recently. People around people drains me and I often just want to lock myself away in my room and not speak to another soul for a good amount of time. I really need time by myself. I may say to someone that I can’t hang out until next week because I’ve got no free evenings this week but that’ll be a lie because I do have a free evening but I’ve set that aside to just be home by myself and do nothing. I had a night like that last night and it was amazing. I got back home from a day on set, got into my pyjamas and spent the evening catching up on YouTube videos. But to me that’s also being busy, because that down time is so important. It genuinely keeps me sane. I start getting sad, exhausted and angry if it’s been a while since I’ve had a night off so I try to have one night a week where I have no plans. And it feels so good! Take care of yourselves, busy people.
What do you think of this whole “busy” people thing? Does it happen to everyone? Does everyone lie? Let me know in the comments!