I’m moving house!
I’m going to rant and complain a bit in this blog post. But first I need to say that I know how lucky and privileged I am to be in the situation where I’ve bought a flat in London in the first place. I am so grateful. But also so tired, angry and frustrated. So here’s why.
For the past 5/6 months I’ve been living in complete limbo. The expected completion date on my new flat was 31st March 2018. Now it’s almost the end of August. Add on top of that all my health stuff this year. Moving into the flat to me symbolises a fresh start. I was ill in hospital fast asleep when the new year of 2018 rang in so part of me is still convinced it’s 2017.
When I move into the flat, that’s when the new year officially starts.
Mentally, it probably hasn’t done me any good. I keep putting everything off by saying “I’ll do it once we’ve moved into the new flat”. But it just kept being delayed and delayed. And so my getting my life together has also been delayed. And by that I mean my physical fitness and getting therapy.
Also work-wise, I don’t feel like I can get my teeth stuck into any big projects. I don’t have a routine anymore. I need my structure to be productive!
What’s the delay?
The delay hasn’t even been that the building wasn’t finished. The building was done. We’ve been waiting on the council to do paperwork and sign off everything. Local councils really do have such limited resources and funding.
So for the past 5 months, everyday I’ve been ringing up my estate agent like “any news?” and the answer is always the same: “any day now, fingers crossed.” Imagine living like this for 5 months. I could move next week – any week. Planning and committing to things was difficult – what if we were moving house? And it was just emotionally draining, getting my hopes up every Monday like it’s going to be this week! and those hopes crushed by Friday when I’d heard nothing.
But last week on the Friday I got THE EMAIL. It said the council had signed off on the development and we’d get our completion notices early next week. Well guess what, it’s Friday again and no completion notice. As soon as that completion notices comes in I know I’ll definitely be moved in within two weeks.
So one of my coping mechanisms with all this waiting and waiting has been over-thinking the interior design. Planning the furniture and colour schemes down to the very last detail. This is not how Dan has dealt with the waiting. One day I found myself obsessing over bedside tables. Dan couldn’t give a shit. He’s very pragmatic, won’t deal in hypotheticals. And he’s actually most excited about getting our office computers up and running and cable management. Cable management. Folks, find yourself a man who loves cable management.
Recently, I’ve been figuring out if I want white or black bedroom furniture (white, thanks for the heads up about dust Twitter!) But Dan and I also like the idea of red and purple in the bedroom. I know it sounds strange and I’m not fully convinced of it myself either. I needed to know if those colours would work with white furniture. So naturally, this is what I spent my time doing…
What can I say. I’m an artist! But I’m still not convinced.
What I’m excited for
But the main thing that’s been getting me through has been dreaming about once we move. I cannot wait to eat meatballs in IKEA and look at all the showrooms and spend way to much money in the marketplace. Like Dan, I am super excited about the home office. I can’t wait to have separate living/working space. We’re going to have so much space! I imagine there’ll be evenings when we’re just chilling in separate rooms. The whole fridge will be filled with my food rather than just one shelf. And I’ll have all the cupboards instead of just one!
Soon soon soon…
Have you ever had a super stressful move? Let me know in the comments. And also please let me know what you think of the purple/red/white.