So I live with 12 people. That may sound scary to you but actually it’s not that bad. I live in a converted warehouse so it’s a huge space, everyone has their own private bedrooms and people are on such different schedules, in and out all the time that it rarely ever feels like there’s 12 people in at once. There’s a healthy balance between having friends around to chat with, eat with, watch TV and films with and just hiding in your bedroom for a bit of privacy.
Recently I have been getting itchy feet. I have been living her for a year and 4 months now and that’s the longest amount of time I’ve lived anywhere other than my parents’ house. At university I moved every year and I think my brain got a bit stuck in ‘oh it’s been a year now – where next?’ and I can’t quite shake that feeling. Also, in complete contrast to my current living situation I have been flirting with the idea of living on my own. Shake things up a bit, embrace some change, be a real adult. I have lived with other people my whole life: my family, university housemates and now London housemates. I have yet to do the ‘living with a boyfriend’ thing though and to be honest not really ready for that in the slightest (need a boyfriend first).
I have found myself looking at 1 bedroom flats in London online and then changing the viewing order from “highest price to lowest” and drooling over these beautiful but horrifically expensive flats. Would not recommend – it will make you sad and frustrated that you’re not a millionaire. So I thought I would put together a pros and cons list of living on my own because that’s how all major decisions are made. Here we go:
- My own space! There are a lot of things that come under this pro – I can put my own furniture, decorations, books everywhere and not just in my bedroom. I will feel as though the kitchen is mine and actually cook more.
- I could walk around naked.
- I could sing and dance around to cheesy pop music as loudly as I like.
- I could have people over and host dinner parties.
- I won’t feel guilty when I come home and go straight to my room instead of socialising.
- I’ll get lonely. I’m an extrovert and even though I love spending time on my own, I like it because I know that there’s someone on the other side of the wall who I could talk to if I wanted. When you live on your own, you’re just alone and there’s not even the option to talk to someone else.
- ONE BEDROOM FLATS IN LONDON ARE SO EXPENSIVE. Normal people can really only afford it if they’re moving in with a partner so they split the rent.
- No-one will know if I go missing or die.
- Bringing back guys who I don’t know very well would make me feel nervous.
- I’m freelance and work from home a lot so there could be a fair number of days where I don’t see or speak to another human at all.
I think I’ve very much romanticised the idea of living alone in my head and the reality is that with my personality, my freelance life, my budget and my single status I can’t do it. Maybe in the next year I’ll downsize to live with 2 or 3 other people but for now the warehouse is my home and I have a family of 12.
Do you live on your own or with a bunch of people? Do you reckon you would thrive in your own apartment? Let me know in the comments!